HOW TO GET THE RIGHT SPOUSE 2💑

Hello once again sweeties❣️

Well, it’s been another long break. phew..! Things will change soon, I assure you. I have learnt so much into the last weeks and some of you have also sent me posts to share with the public. I am indeed grateful for the privileges🕺🏼🙏🏾. Thanks so so much!

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Back to our hot topic of last week, we will be looking at “ How to get your right Spouse, the concluding episode”. Need I say that African girls can pretend for Africa eh💁🏽‍♀️.. till date, it still baffles me. You like a certain guy, instead of showing it, you do the exact opposite, please will that one attract or repel? I have seen and heard folks do strange things and when they are caught, you hear they say, I have always loved him, I did it for love 💖... nah! When you love someone, you cannot walk or work in the opposite direction of that word, unless of course,u are mixing up meanings or whatever 🤷🏽‍♀️.

GO FOR IT!

Guys, always follow your heart, your gut and intuition when making life decisions, you will always know when sometimes things are not right, same as if it will play out suitably. While Africans May frown at a lady being forward or too aware, it’s totally acceptable in more developed nations. Marriages are being broken by the seconds because of poor choices and because some societies forced people to tow the line of unhappiness for security. When you feel you have met that lady that fits your specifications, don’t wait for a second more, make the move because she may as well be thinking about you as well💃🏻😂. The thing is, this love and relationship thing can be really funny eh, it can toss you here and there, make your eyes tingle and your ears 👂 deaf to all reasonings. It’s really complicated but simple as well. Do excuse my interplay on words, am in that mood this morning. Love supercedes mere feeling or the huge tugging in your heart 💔.. am sure we have all had those moments😊, Love is a magnetic pull, it’s em.. it’s gentle, yet sweet, it’s reassurance but not Davidos assurance💕, it’s more than that, it’s commitment, it’s the sum total of sweet & bitter to make something really delicious and comfortable😘💑. Oh my! I deserve an award 😁👋🏾.

This may sound funny but that guy you have been discussing with ur bestie may soon be hers since you are not making the move but have allowed her to see all the good parts. Don’t blame my ladies oh, they are Master strategists who came on board while you slept lazily dreaming and waiting for the husband to come to you 😌😌. 

WORK IT OUT

Many have played their hands on the wrong relationships and even those that would have played out as marriages were used as friendships and those that should have been things casual have ended up as marriages. Biko don’t mess things up. The earlier you do the right things the better for you ooo. Cut off all strange alliances that are not getting you anywhere. If a guy you have been seeing for well over  8 months has not defined the direction you both are taking, my advice would be for you to start having serious discussions around that region. Guys, you cannot keep wasting the ladies life. She does all the wifely duties in your home, yet you don’t want to pop the question? Please, uncle, that’s greed😌🤷🏽‍♀️🤭. When disagreements happen, guys you must strive to work it out, kill that ego immediately, throw your pride away and if the relationship is worth it, please work it out. Do not delay for a second at all. Nothing is more annoying than having regrets about u not doing the right thing when you could have. Give love a chance, let your heart beat, let anger and malice go away because it’s robs everyone of a lot of stuff. It steals your happiness. Go for it folks, make that dream a reality but while at it, please don’t throw caution to the winds. Being married is a lifetime investment😊

LEAVE SUGAR DADDIES & SLAY MAMAS

Hmmm, this is another blow to some of my readers' appetite o. Pardon me, I just need to roll out truths with these topics. You cannot make progress in the line of marriage if you are still treading this route. Slay mamas will continually be slaying mamas unless there’s an intervention. If it’s a barbie doll type wife you want, there are many of those ladies around now but please be ready to bear the brunt of the consequences of such alliances. It just cannot work. A slay mama would not want her clothes soiled and her nailed chirped, everything must be on point! Guess what! This doesn’t mean she’s a bad person but that’s just who she is, if it’s something you can handle, by all means, throw a bridal party and. Make urself happy. On the other hand, If that’s not your package, then please just turn the other side and move on to explore other fruitful areas. Note marriage is not for babies 👶, it’s got lots to do with maturity and seriousness. You need to be ready for the surprises that come thereafter and several other stuff that is packaged alongside marriages. Ladies who want to be in serious relationships must also do away with sugar daddies and all. It doesn’t help one bit to say u are looking for a spouse but you are still engaging in bad stuff that will just ruin you🤭🙃. See, all those pleasures are just for a time, it’s best you settle for what’s best for you at all times and trust me that’s not by dating a sugar daddy🙁.

Frankly, you cannot also be dating a married man and expect God to perform a miracle in your life You are totally living in a fool's paradise. It’s a no-no and guess what? You are also ruining your chances of getting married to the right man. Why go and date someone that’s already married, I know stuff may happen, some out of desperation etc but when you want to get married, you need to consciously lay off such relationships because they will do you more harm than good. In the long run, he goes back to his wife. He loves you, you love him, you lose the more girl, it’s you the society will eventually frown at, Sadly🤔. So sis, I know how it is, it can be a tough decision but for your sanity and eventual happiness, please break off and focus on making urself better. 

LOOK FOR INNER BEAUTY

While outward appearances are awesome, it has put quite a lot of people in jeopardy. You simply cannot make choices based on just how a guy looks or how a lady looks. That's not loving, that’s cosmetic attraction 😬. This is why people wonder when they see a very handsome young man with an assumably short ugly woman🙌🏾.. the guy is more concerned about her innate gifting. He is obviously not seeing what others may be seeing💕😘. This love thing can be so twisted that it’s it makes one do the unimaginable or the unexpected., look well before you leap. Leaving a lifetime filled with regrets is pretty bad business. Never let any person force you to marry, you must be ready for them. My ears are filled with sordid tales of folks who took the leap but it was a spur of the moment thing. Some have taken their cross but some haven’t. I hope it all works out🙏🏾

YOU NEED A PARTNER NOT A BOSS
Usually, what we are handed down from our parents is that spouses should support each other and make the home as habitable and comfortable as ever. Women are doing quite a lot now, most are no longer housewives, in fact, they actually often bear the brunt of the bills in the home ❤️🙌🏾..unlike what used to be obtainable before now where most of these roles were rested solely with the man. The areas I do not appreciate at all is when a man takes it for granted that a woman or his wife is supporting hugely and he still wants her to handle a larger chunk .. Oga, it’s wrong o😱. To get a nice wife material or husband material, ensure you are not dating a selfish person but a giving person. If u are in love, make sure your faculties are rightly placed .. you need support, you cannot marry a liability or just someone that wants to sit at home looking pretty, she doesn’t do chores, she doesn’t tend the kids, all she does is sit and look pretty. Some men may adore this spec but trust me, it can also get very tiring and frustrating. Your partner should make u proud, both of you should complement each other, you should both help out where necessary. Some ladies can pretend eh😵, while others can do anything for a guy they are in love with. Choose wisely, don’t make mistakes, it’s a bit difficult to turn back the hands of time.

WATCH HOW THEY RELATE WITH OTHER PEOPLE👩‍👩‍👧‍👦👩‍👦‍👦
Guys/ Ladies .. a good-natured person will naturally be a friendly person, kind, pleasant and hospitable. While being friendly is good, no man wants his lady to be overly friendly👧😕, That alone can be very embarrassing. Any guy or lady that don't want to see your family is a questionable character, you should watch out!it makes everything easier and less complicated if both parties are on the same page. No matter how bad it is, your intended spouse should influence you positively and not be the one to cause you misery. you don't wanna see her with friends, she doesn't want to see your own friends, please what's going on here?😒. Marriage is sweeter when the home is rested and happy. once you see these signs, talk about them and try to sort it out. I actually have a lot to say but i am pressed for time, sadly. However, as usual, please mail me or even drop comments here. I will be sure to respond as promptly as i can👊

I love you all and I earnestly hope you make the right choices in your relationship, trust me, it can be frustrating if you don't.

What are your thoughts? do you agree with me or not?
drop your comments xoxox